I finally took my 11 year old on a ride...
My wife was out of town on business this past week. Against her protective feelings, she certainly wouldn't have wanted to know, see or hear this but I finally took my only boy out for a 3 hour ride. The helmet that fits my wife fit him perfectly as I buckled him up. I placed heavy gloves on his hands as well as made sure his thick jacket was snug as to manage the weather (cool and sunny) or possible incidence. I started the bike and warmed it up. The motor ticked to warmed life then broke into beautiful cadence once the choke was secure. Within 30 seconds he was aboard and we were down out of the neighborhood. We started out around the further block then across town in reasonable fast fashion, briskly through the tunnels, climbing bridges and brushing open country briefly finally coming to stop a good breakfast place an hour later. He proudly held the helmet and sat at the counter with me ordering waffles, bacon and orange juice.
These past weeks have been hard on him with the start of a hectic 6 grade in middle school, his grandfather's deadly serious medical condition and challenges of his mother being away. As we rode he was silent but quite thrilled to be on his father's bike. We both enjoyed the time together as we rode our airhead about stopping at lights, making the turn-a-bouts and scooting off the line in safe practice.
After being out for nearly three hours we finally pulled up at home. Once settled back inside, my sweet boy sat on my lap and just began to tell me his worries and thoughts which he has seriously held within his young stressed mind. Later, he held my hand for a long periods over the rest of the weekend holding on to the good feelings we had shared which was more than a ride.
Perhaps I will share this story with my wife but then again maybe he and I will keep this a secret. In any case, next time his mother leaves for another week long business trip we might go a bit further down the road.
first real ride with son
first real ride with son
Last edited by Ridercam on Wed Sep 28, 2011 6:58 pm, edited 2 times in total.
I always brake in corners and think how I am going to get home if I really mess up. When I get home, I wished that I hadn't used my brakes and should have ridden a bit further.
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Nice one Ridercam. I can feel a 'Zen and the Art of ...' adventure coming up. Motorcycle riding and passenging (that's an Airbearism) are fine philosophical tools, and a serious ride with Dad is an excellent rite of passage.
Here in OZ three years ago we had a 'father and son' event. Ten Oz Boxerworkers and six eleven-year-olds rode up into the mountains to camp for the weekend, and a great time was had by all. The boys are still friends whenever they meet. Since I didn't have an eleven y.o. myself I had to 'rent-a-kid' (my girlfriend's son Jack). Jack is now a very cool 14 y.o. and he still talks about that adventure.
I hope Mrs Ridercam finds a way to relax and provide some encouragement for further adventures.
Here in OZ three years ago we had a 'father and son' event. Ten Oz Boxerworkers and six eleven-year-olds rode up into the mountains to camp for the weekend, and a great time was had by all. The boys are still friends whenever they meet. Since I didn't have an eleven y.o. myself I had to 'rent-a-kid' (my girlfriend's son Jack). Jack is now a very cool 14 y.o. and he still talks about that adventure.
I hope Mrs Ridercam finds a way to relax and provide some encouragement for further adventures.
Charlie
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and Brunhilde - 1974 R90/6
Graduate, Wallace and Gromit School of Engineering and Design (Pending)
Re: first real ride with son
Thanks for the encouragement. I hope we find a group like yours to mix the joy of adventure and the joy of sharing.
My beautiful bride is a special, loving woman but things like this will take some time to warm up to (especially concerning our only child and motorbikes).
My beautiful bride is a special, loving woman but things like this will take some time to warm up to (especially concerning our only child and motorbikes).
I always brake in corners and think how I am going to get home if I really mess up. When I get home, I wished that I hadn't used my brakes and should have ridden a bit further.
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Ted isn't it? I have experienced first hand the result of taking two sons when aged about 13, on extended motorcycle tours of at least ten days each, plus many more over night camps.
Camping, cooking, open fires, fishing, doing it just a little bit tough.
It has helped me to have a very open relationship with my boys, now 17 & 14.
It is definitely a worthwhile pursuit, taking kids on motorcycles.
As for the fears of mothers and others, that will not be the same for all, however I did face the same initial opposition as you are expecting.
"When's the next trip dad", is a reassuring sign that they love it too!
Sun wun
Sun too
Camping, cooking, open fires, fishing, doing it just a little bit tough.
It has helped me to have a very open relationship with my boys, now 17 & 14.
It is definitely a worthwhile pursuit, taking kids on motorcycles.
As for the fears of mothers and others, that will not be the same for all, however I did face the same initial opposition as you are expecting.
"When's the next trip dad", is a reassuring sign that they love it too!
Sun wun
Sun too
Lord of the Bings
Re: first real ride with son
I don't have sons....
Me with my daughters when I had an outfit.
After staying at Charlies place on the way to Mitta Mitta with my youngest daughter on the back.
Me with my daughters when I had an outfit.
After staying at Charlies place on the way to Mitta Mitta with my youngest daughter on the back.
Me wittle bit of the web........http://rossmz.blogspot.com/
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Good one Ted ...I'm still working towards taking my 9 year old grand daughter out for a ride, I've taken her on my old Enfield up and down the dirt for a few kilometres but nothing substantial yet .
Well done mate !
Well done mate !
"You ain't gonna learn what you don't want to know"
The Grateful Dead
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I guess the double posting here and the WBF released my true identity. Of the airheads I know might think twice about our choices in wooden boats though they are simple by choice. I dont know if it is reassuring or most odd that we share similar interests. I do like we have a few same places were we share our machines and journeys.
I believe it is important for a child to have a sense of adventure, danger and excitement. We need to teach them not to be afraid while accepting safe risks with the thrill. I did have some apprehension and was more situationally aware than usual as we were out. perhaps that is other take away from this too.
next time I will take a picture of us on the road to post to put among your good looking kids on your great looking bikes.
cheers!
I believe it is important for a child to have a sense of adventure, danger and excitement. We need to teach them not to be afraid while accepting safe risks with the thrill. I did have some apprehension and was more situationally aware than usual as we were out. perhaps that is other take away from this too.
next time I will take a picture of us on the road to post to put among your good looking kids on your great looking bikes.
cheers!
I always brake in corners and think how I am going to get home if I really mess up. When I get home, I wished that I hadn't used my brakes and should have ridden a bit further.
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Sweet story and timeless message. You're a lucky guy. So's your son. The motorcycle was just the medium. My own son was close to me when he was young. Then he was a teenager. He came back later. Now he's thirty-four years old, married, and living pretty far away. He ends each phone call with "I love you". It means a lot.
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I've promised to take both of my kids for a "lunch" ride after they've completed their uni exams. Alisha is 24 and Josh is 21. They both enjoy a ride on the bike with the old man, and all that with the blessings of my other half. I used to have a BMW T-shirt that said" The shortest distance between 2 point, is boring!" The lunch rides will take all day and about 300 kilometers.
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I'm hoping this relates to the opening post of this thread.
I've made some wooden bows. That led me to a an idea for a cartoon, maybe it would be cool on a t-shirt.
It would be a drawing of a man and a boy walking. In the boy's hand, an apple with an arrow through it. In the man's hand, a long bow. As they walk along with a certain air of camaraderie/conspiracy, they share a knowing smile.
The caption would read: "Some things, a mother wouldn't understand",under that, "Should William tell?"
Chuey
I've made some wooden bows. That led me to a an idea for a cartoon, maybe it would be cool on a t-shirt.
It would be a drawing of a man and a boy walking. In the boy's hand, an apple with an arrow through it. In the man's hand, a long bow. As they walk along with a certain air of camaraderie/conspiracy, they share a knowing smile.
The caption would read: "Some things, a mother wouldn't understand",under that, "Should William tell?"
Chuey